Ghosts are for Halloween

Welcome back friends!

This week's blog will be especially chilling as we look at a terror that we all have come in contact with at some point in our lives, maybe even done it.

Ghosts and the art of ghosting. Scary right? Well in my short 22 years, I have had maaannnnyyyy experiences with the paranormal and I have to say that it doesn't get any easier each time it happens.

This one time I was seeing someone that my brother set me up with and we went out a few times, talked for weeks. Since I was at school, they had plans to see me weeks ahead of time so that I would be able to see them and know when I was going back home next. That changed quite quickly. The conversations seemed normal but I had a gut feeling that it was going south and I turned out to be right.

I'm pretty good at knowing when I will be visited by a ghost and can see it coming but that doesn't mean that I trust my gut all the time. I find that I hold onto things expecting to bring things back to life when I feel a chill in the air but trusting my gut is never the case for me. Maybe some, but never for me.

Anyway, a few days after my gut was sensing spirits, the conversations seemed less and less in depth from one end (his) and not the other. The conversations stopped less than a week after the first initial sense of a ghost sighting and the conversation ended like this:

Me: I'm coming home from school this weekend

Ghost: Oh really? What day?!

Me: Friday!

*silence*

And then I saw the ghost.

That's not even the worst part of this situation. My brother worked with the guy and so when I went there, he hid from me and then months later I texted him instead of my roommate asking if he was renewing our lease (they had VERY similar names and I did't notice...FML).

|Only I would run into this situation.|

After that accidental text, he replied and asked me how I was and how things were going for me, which made me a little angry if I'm honest. All those months of silence and then after one mistake, I was interesting again. I guess in hindsight, I really should have double checked the name and he was just being polite but it was still equally awkward and I was so embarrassed. The conversation ended quickly and that was the last time I heard from this particular ghost.

Another time I went on a double date and had a really great time. We went on another date later that week, just the two of us and it was back to school for me. He went on holiday with his family, messaged me when he came back and we talked a bit. This ghost told me he got really burnt from his holiday but even though he was fried and was burning- his ghosting was still quite chilling. I even remember being ghosted in High School before "ghosting" was even a term.

Like I said before, I have had quite a few run-ins with ghosts and the art of ghosting and while I have been exposed to this particular craft, I feel myself asking 'why' every single time. Don't get me wrong, I completely understand that I may not be what someone expects, is looking for or perhaps they change their mind about me- all completely valid and acceptable thoughts and feelings,- but it is the way things are handled that I have a problem with. In my opinion, ghosting someone only causes the person being ghosted to feel bad about themselves. For me, these various occasions have caused me to wonder what is wrong with me and if I did something that upset the person I was speaking to in the first place. I'm sure others out there can confirm these thoughts that I have had. If not, I hope that you don't come across these situations and have to experience what I am talking about.

Perhaps you are the one that is ghosting someone or has ghosted someone in the past. I really can't speak from your point of view because I haven't ghosted anyone before. If you aren't doing it to be malicious, which I feel like most of the time no one really means for it to be that way, the best way to let someone know you have changed your mind is to just tell them. I know that sounds harder than just ending conversations but it actually makes the person feel better...most of the time. I guess everybody is different but I would rather be told that someone had changed their mind rather than complete silence and rack my brain wondering what went wrong, especially if I never saw it coming.

I guess what I am trying to say is keep it kind and keep those ghosts for Halloween, kids.

-E